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Jilly's avatar

Love this Nishad, very glad you shared it. Enjoy having your amazing friends with you ❤️

Nishad Sanzagiri's avatar

Aww thank you so much Jilly. Yes, it’s been very fun to have them here 🥰

Saumya Seth's avatar

This is so well written!

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Thanks so much Saumya, you’re very kind 🤍

Pavitra's avatar

Use of “Aai” and “Baba” made it personal :’)

Puli. Purushotham's avatar

FAMILY IS THE FOUNDATION FOR SOCIETY.

IN INDIA FAMILY BONDING IS DEEP ROOTED.

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I really wonder reading , how am young man of this generation who was away for a decade from the family has so much gratitude to parents .

Dear brother, i am 63 and married the samecyear your loving parents for married.

When I see you as a toddler sitting in the lap of your father , shaping your future, when I see your loving mother looking at you when you were kid, I notice untold stories in hervtwinkling eyes seeing your future.

There is no language to express this family bonding dear brother.

It was like a voyage, a journey of life reading your beautiful narrative enanated from the bottom of your heart.

Remembering my parent who toiled their swest and blood and love for my being here today.......

🙏🙏 Regards and God bless you🙏🙏

Nishad Sanzagiri's avatar

Thank you so much, this means a lot! I am so glad it resonated with you. 🥹 🙏🏽

Sindhuja's avatar

Had to try really hard to rein in my tears while reading this at work 🥺. Thank you for this beautifully written article.

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Thank you so much Sindhuja, means so much 🥹

teemane's avatar

Amazing! Really enjoyed reading this 👌🏾

Nishad Sanzagiri's avatar

Thank you so much! 🤍

rimsha's avatar

this was so sweet and resonated immensely

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Ah thank you so much Rimsha!

Asrar Malik's avatar

Lovely article that describes the many unseen beautiful qualities of South Asian culture.

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Thanks so much Asrar!

Vidhi Gada's avatar

Cried, subscribed and waiting for the book now.

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Thank you so much Vidhi — you made my day! 🥹

Namrata Yadav's avatar

The nuance about their generation is articulated so well. Thank you for writing this.

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Thank you so much Namrata!

Kapil Dawda's avatar

Thank you for writing this, Nishad. The point around a generation sandwiched between reverence and obedience for their parents and yet enabling an exploratory space for children is something I have never thought of.

And a big Yes to men learning the ways of softness. I wrote about it in my post "Be a man, yaar". It's been a journey.

Nishad Sanzagiri's avatar

Thanks so much Kapil, glad it resonated with you. Will check out your post to — so important for us men to talk about how to shape positive masculinity.

30andtiredxx's avatar

This was beautiful Nishad and very relatable. Thank you for sharing.

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Thanks so much! ❤️

Devayani's avatar

😄. I certainly will, to read your posts. As I look forward to buying and reading soon, your book, you're currently working on. 😊 . 👍. 👏👏👏. 💪. 😎

Devayani's avatar

"That you need a tribe even when you’re independent. That gratitude is not childish."

💯. True. This whole post is.

Glad, I came across your account and got to read this. Know, there are exceptions. 👍

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Thank you so much Devayani. Thank you for stumbling across my words and hope you stay.

Simran Sharma's avatar

Nishad, what a wonderfully written article. It is so true that we have no emotional vocabulary to say the things we want to. I love how seamlessly you are able to braid memory with reflection! I haven't travelled a lot in life and I have spent a long time living at home yet your experience mirrors mine.

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Thanks so much Simran — sometimes the distances we need to travel are the longest when we live in the same houses :)

Ramya's avatar

This quote hit particularly hard for me, especially coming out of family time over the holidays and resulting convos around dating and marriage. “Every family gathering became a negotiation, every life choice a careful calculation between what would disappoint their parents least and what would fulfill their children most.”

Glad to have stumbled across your piece!

Nishad Sanzagiri's avatar

Haha, the conversation around dating and marriage, I’ve realised, is never ending. Been on the receiving end of numerous similar conversations (or interrogations) since my move back, so sending you strength to endure them!