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Shailaja Khanna's avatar

This is the sad truth of your generation. That obvious belonging, based on committment is missing. Till now it exists for your parents, but in the future even tha t may go. I think you should try to strengthen the link with your country of birth.......

Nishad Sanzagiri's avatar

So true. That’s the aim — to strengthen the bond with India.

Apoorvaa S Raghavan's avatar

I loved how you refuse the fantasy of a singular home. That belonging isn’t just about where you’re from, but about how willing you are to stay and be shaped by a place. Beautifully said.

Nishad Sanzagiri's avatar

Thanks so much Apoorvaa! 🤍

30somethingexpat's avatar

Maybe we belong to all the places we want to belong to? Fortunately cities, unlike partners, do not demand exclusivity. I guess cities are more like aunts. You can have many and they love you even if you don’t show up to every family event.

Nishad Sanzagiri's avatar

Love the idea that cities are like aunts! I agree, need to embrace the polygamous relationship with all the cities.

Rohan Banerjee's avatar

Wonderful essay! I am bookmarking this because I know I will return to it. This matter of trying to understand what is one's 'home' is quite close to my heart, as we've discussed. :)

Jai Makhija's avatar

As someone who’s been living in different cities for the past 3 years and shifting to another city next month, I could relate to it so much!! Beautifully written

Mukta Naik's avatar

This essay resonated with me in many ways. Ditto on being Goan through ancestry but not being able to claim native status! The answer to your last quandary though, I feel, is politics and civic action. If you get drawn into the action needed to make your community, your surroundings better, however small that might be, you start belonging in a far deeper way. Maybe I’ll write about how this panned out for me sometime but just wanted to put that thought out there for now.